The Lies our Children are Absorbing

You look at her and see a child still, because that's what she is, a slim, pretty girl in a T-shirt and jeans, 12 and in no hurry to be 13. “I don't want to grow up,” she tells me as she's beating me at Spit, a card game I have yet to win. “I like being a kid.”

“You'll like being an adult, too, I promise. It comes with some tremendous perks. You get to pick out all the food at the grocery…

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A mom leaves behind her best

When I asked the priest to pray for Beth's mother and he said, "What's her name?" I answered, "Mrs. O'Connor."

Her first name, Mary, didn't come to me until hours later because, it's "my mother" that Beth always calls her.

"My mother's on the other line. Can I call you back?"

"My mother and father are here. My mother's staying a few days. "

"The twins are with my mother."

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Revisiting Summer with a Child

She had a chart in her room and was marking off days. I had a chart in my head and was doing the same. Then Sunday finally arrived. Xena didn't pack much for her summer at my house. She didn't need much - just shorts, jeans, a few T-shirts, a book, writing paper, some craft things. She set up camp in my daughter's old room. Then she was beside me talking about her friends Elspie and Amaran and schoo…

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